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Why Do We Have Negative Emotions, Darwin?

Why do some people actively cling to negative emotions when they know it is harmful? Why did we evolve to have such emotions?

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How to Become Self-Motivated

My daughter is a teenager. Like many teenagers, her relationship with her parents is stressed by the divergence of priorities. She will tell me that she will clean her room. She will tell me that she will get her driver’s license. She will tell me that she will do her homework. Being a parent, I […]

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Thrive or Strive: Motivate Change for Happiness

As I am developing this intervention model of Buddhist Therapy, I have had a few people ask how individuals and counselors can help develop change. “Mind precedes things, dominates them, creates them” (Mano pubbangamadhamma mano settha mano maya). ~ Dhammapada The core of change comes from the acknowledgement and understanding of decision-thinking is self-motivated. Even […]

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ReWrite Your Stories and Be Happy

I was on my first silent meditation retreat. I was so excited to enjoy the silence. Share that time with others who were seeking time in quiet reflection and loving kindness. But by the end of the fourth day, I wanted to see misery brought down upon every meditator there. I couldn’t stand their smug […]

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Suicide, Survivors: Buddhism

A dear friend contacted me. Her ex-husband and father of her child had taken his own life. She was feeling isolated and wanted someone to talk to her a bit about the issues she was dealing with. Her now-husband was not relating to her since she was estranged from the ex-husband. We talked strategies for […]

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Buddhist Same-Sex Marriage

I hear the words bandied about “traditional marriage.” And as a minister, I get asked, “What is the Buddhist position on same-sex marriage?” What would Buddha say? In truth, the Buddha would probably respond to the question with another question, “How does this issue lead to the understanding of suffering and the cessation of suffering?” […]

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Buddhist Society of Pittsburgh 4th Annual Vesak

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Worry- How We Keep Ourselves From Happiness

This is the question of all questions. If the Buddha was happy growing up he never would have left his castle, his riches, his wife and child. Studying faith and religion didn’t make him happy. Suffering and starving to cleanse himself didn’t make him happy. There is a general unhappiness that comes from living. The […]

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Buddhism Compliments Christianity and Islam.

Reverend Sumitta,  Is the difference between Buddhism and Christianity that Buddhism starts without belief and Christianity starts with belief? Dear Dhamma-follower, The best explanation I give for Buddhism compared to theistic faiths is that Buddhism is a practice of realization and theistic faiths are ones of revelation. They both have faith/belief. Faith means to have […]

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Sumitta quotes 2011

The following are  quotes from this year that I have said and liked. Most happened during teachings or during counseling. Many of them became my twitter or FB status updates. Now I am putting them all together. Do not leave your mind drag behind you. Do not throw it far in front of you. Do […]

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Should We Fear Death?

In trying to understand Buddhism, there is almost always one inevitable question: What happens once we die? Normally, I rebuttal this question with a question, “Why are we focused on the next life when there is so much work to do in liberating this life?” However, since the question comes up over and over again, […]

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U.S. Army's first Buddhist chaplain, Thomas Dyer

Motivation for Enlightenment

I was speaking with a fellow minister of my order and I asked him what work he was doing. He is working as an Army Chaplain and he replied “I am reminding an infantry company to remain mindful and to bring the spiritual into their training. It’s an uphill battle.” Of course, he is a […]

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What is the First Step in Buddhist Practice?

I was asked recently, “How do I develop a Buddhist practice?” Most Buddhists practitioners are aware of the Noble Eightfold Path (Understanding, Intention, Speech, Action, Livelihood, Effort, Mindfulness and Concentration). Each one of these qualities are not developed in sequence but in tandem with each other. The Noble Eightfold Path develops the three characteristics needed […]

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GUEST BLOGGER: How does my Buddhist practice affect my daily life?

On occasion, the blogger of Precious Metal, Nate DeMontigny, coordinates a wonderful event: A Buddhist Blog Swap. This is an opportunity for digital dharma dialogists to be a guest speaker on other blog. I was very fortunate to have been given J Andy Lambert of Bayou City Buddhist as my guest speaker. —— My Zen practice never really stops. […]

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The Giving Bodhi Tree

When I was younger (as the Beatles say, “so much younger than today”), I remember reading Shel Silverstein’s “The Giving Tree.” I thought it was a horribly sad story of unrequited love. A tree who loves a boy so much that it just waits and gives and gives and gets less and less in return. […]

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